A mother has said that she has started to hate her husband because of the bond he has with their daughter – after seeing her daughter cry whenever he isn’t around.
Posting on Reddit, the woman said that when falling pregnant with her daughter an agreement was made where she would work and her husband would be a stay-at-home dad.
She said that because of not being able to spend any time with her that she would cry whenever she picked her up, won’t let her feed or change her and constantly cries whenever her husband isn’t around.
Because of the bond she lacks with her daughter while watching her husband’s bond with her grow every day she has started to “hate” her husband.
She said: “Before I even got pregnant my husband and I made the decision that he would be a stay-at-home dad and I would work. This is what both of us wanted and what would work the best considering I made a lot more than him.
“I had to go back to work as soon as I was cleared, everything was great with the baby until I had to go back to work.
“I had to stop nursing because I was gone all day at work and she eventually winged off me after two weeks of bottle feeding when I wasn’t there.
“During the week I’m able to see her for about 20 minutes awake before I leave for work in the morning and she’s already sleeping by the time I get home in the evening.
“At night my husband insists on being the one to get up every time because he’s worried about me getting enough sleep even though I tell him I’d rather spend time with our daughter and be tired.
“But it doesn’t matter because she cries whenever I hold her, she won’t take the bottle when I try to feed her.
“I can’t comfort her back to sleep at night, she’s completely uninterested in playing unless it’s with her dad. I physically can not hold her without her screaming and crying.”
The mother said that she can’t spend any time alone with her baby without her crying and screaming and only wants to spend time with her dad.
She said: “I’ve been back at work, we’ve been alone together maybe four times and every single time she has cried the entire time her dad wasn’t there. I literally know nothing about her and it seems like my husband can read her mind.
“He knows what her different cries mean when I don’t even notice a difference. She smiles and laughs at him.
“She has never cried when he picks her up or holds her. I am her mother and her parent, I should be doing these things but she doesn’t even know who I am and it hurts so badly.”
Although the mother said she doesn’t regret the agreement they made for her husband to stay at home while she works, she said that she wishes her daughter liked her.
She said: “I’m not regretting our agreement of him being at home with her, I just wish I could spend more time with her and wish that she actually liked me.
“Or at least not crying whenever he’s not there, he tries to make me feel better by telling me how bad it is when she spits up on him or there’s leaking diapers and things like that but I want that.”
She said she’s happy her husband is a good father, and he even sends her pictures of their daughter when she’s at work but that just makes her angry.
She said: “He sends me pictures and videos of her all day when I’m at work but it honestly just pisses me off that I’m the one who gave birth to her and all she does is cry at me.
“I can’t even hold my own creation, I’m grateful that he’s such a good father to her but I wish so badly for that to be me.”
