A bride has slammed her mother-in-law for asking to borrow her wedding dress for her upcoming vow renewal.
The unnamed woman, 24, married Marcus, 25, just three months before her mother-in-law gave them the bizarre request.
Their wedding seemingly had a big impact on Marcus’s parents, with his 46-year-old mother, Rose, and his father David, opting to renew their vows after attending their son’s big day.
The Reddit user said she was “happy for them” and “thought it was a great idea” until Rose asked to borrow her wedding dress for the occasion.
Writing on the forum, she said: “Rose came to me with the request that she wear my wedding dress since she was forced to sell hers when Marcus was a kid, and didn’t want to spend the money on a brand new wedding dress. I was shocked and just told her that I would think about it.”
After deciding she didn’t want her mother-in-law to wear her dress, she asked advice on how best to tell her.
“I have thought about it and I honestly don’t want her to wear it. I want to preserve it for a future daughter or granddaughter and the dress would have to be altered in order to fit my mother-in-law”, she said.
Adding some interesting character quirks about her mother-in-law, she explained that she did not think her wedding dress would be in safe hands. She added: “I’m also afraid of it possibly being stained or torn since Rose is clumsy and has ruined expensive clothes of mine or her own because of it. The fabric is delicate and part of it is white, which is notoriously hard to get stains out of it.”
But Rose won’t let the idea go, with the Reddit user explaining she has since texted her and Marcus multiple times to ask whether or not she can wear the dress.
“Rose has been texting me about it, wanting to know my answer and I haven’t told Marcus about her request yet. The reason my mother-in-law asked me instead of renting/thrifting a dress is that she doesn’t think clothing should be rented out and she’d feel uncomfortable wearing a stranger’s dress when I asked her about it/offered those options.”
One commenter offered firm and reasonable advice that received the endorsement of 2,800 users.
They said: “Politely, but firmly say no. Do mention it to hubby first because your mother-in-law is going to call her son once you say no, and he needs to be on the same page as you. Sorry Rose, but the answer is no. Your wedding dress is a very personal thing for a woman. You are just not comfortable with your dress being loaned out and altered a few months after your wedding.”
