A man has been bashed online after destroying his daughter’s bedroom only a few months after moving out. The dad posted his situation on the Reddit board ‘AmITheA**hole’ after he began renovating his 18-year-old daughter’s room. The girl moved in with her boyfriend last year, and is in college.
Asking for opinions on the subreddit, user ArtisticConfidence22 said his daughter moving out “left her old bedroom empty”.
“Her bedroom used to be right next to our tiny living room,” he said.
“To make our tiny living room into a normal sized living room, we knocked out my daughter’s room’s wall, refloored the space and fixed the walls.
“Now it looks like the bedroom was never there and we have a spacious living room.”
But when the daughter came back to visit and saw her room was gone, the man said “she made a huge deal about it”.
“She got all emotional and said if we never wanted to let her move back, we should’ve just said so instead of completely demolishing her room.
“I told her that if anything happens and she needs to move back, we will welcome her and she could sleep on the couch as long as she wants.
“But she accused us of wanting to get rid of her forever and for her to never visit us since we got rid of her room so fast, only a few months after she moved out and we should’ve waited longer.”
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Users dogpiled on the man, with Perfect-Tangerine267 saying: “Is it that hard to talk with your own kid before doing something drastic?
“Not even a warning? That’s cold.”
User Brapchu noted that “No (you’re not the a**hole for not waiting longer with the renovation)”, but added he was in the wrong “for poor communication skills”.
They said he was an a**hole “because you never seemed to have told her until she visited you and she got blindsided by the room where she grew up in no longer existing and every trace of it ever being there removed”.
Another poster, likearevolutionx, said: “Is it your house? Sure. But when college kids say they’re going to visit their parents, they say they’re going HOME.
“And you took a part of that – her safe space that she grew up in – without so much as a heads up.
“Just because you CAN, doesn’t mean you’re not an AH if you do.”
More users chimed in to say the father was wrong to destroy the girls bedroom.
PastelPinkLife said: “I haven’t visited my family in almost 2 years, but if I went back and they’ve demolished my room, I’d be heartbroken.
“She’s right, it does make it feel like you just don’t want her to move back in ever. You should have at least asked her about it.”
User newfriend836639 also said: “18 is still very young and the chances of things not working out with your daughter’s boyfriend are probably pretty high.
“There is a good chance she will need to leave him and move back home with you.
“By so quickly disappearing her room, especially without any discussion with her, it DOES send the message that you are done with her and don’t ever want her to come back.
“No wonder she is upset. It would have been better to wait until she was graduating from college and moving out more permanently.”
