Abbie Chatfield admits she 'neglected her privilege as a white woman' by outshining Bachelorette


Abbie Chatfield has apologised for allowing her ‘white privilege’ to overshadow Brooke Blurton’s finale of The Bachelorette.

Brooke last week slammed Abbie for going public with her new boyfriend, Bachelorette contestant Konrad Bien-Stephens, the night before her finale, saying it was another example of a ‘white woman displaying what white privilege looks like’.

While Abbie has since released a lengthy apology, some fans have expressed confusion as to why race has anything to do with the situation.

Clarifying the issue on her It’s A Lot podcast on Tuesday, Abbie explained: ‘People were confused about how the white privilege came into it.’

'I was neglectful': Abbie Chatfield (pictured) has apologised for allowing her 'white privilege' to overshadow Brooke Blurton's finale of The Bachelorette

Pictured: Brooke Blurton

‘I was neglectful’: Abbie Chatfield (left) has apologised for allowing her ‘white privilege’ to overshadow Brooke Blurton’s (right) finale of The Bachelorette

‘The white privilege in that is me not thinking about the impacts of that post to the community. And I knew the importance but I didn’t think my actions would affect that,’ she continued.

Abbie admitted she’d failed to recognise how her actions would be perceived in the context of race, as Brooke was Australia’s first Indigenous Bachelorette.

‘I was neglectful in not thinking about the impact of me as a white woman in the media and a public figure, uploading that [post] during that time [before the finale]’, she said.

It comes days after Abbie shared a lengthy post on Instagram explaining her decision to go public with Konrad, claiming she believed she had Brooke’s blessing.  

‘This is to address the post made by Brooke. A month ago, a video of Konrad and I kissing was secretly captured by a patron and made public,’ she began. 

Not happy: Brooke last week slammed Abbie for going public with her new boyfriend, Bachelorette contestant Konrad Bien-Stephens, the night before her finale, saying it was another example of a 'white woman displaying what white privilege looks like'

Not happy: Brooke last week slammed Abbie for going public with her new boyfriend, Bachelorette contestant Konrad Bien-Stephens, the night before her finale, saying it was another example of a ‘white woman displaying what white privilege looks like’

'I knew the importance but I didn't think my actions would affect that': Speaking on her It's A Lot podcast on Tuesday, Abbie responded to fans questioning why race had anything to do with the situation

‘I knew the importance but I didn’t think my actions would affect that’: Speaking on her It’s A Lot podcast on Tuesday, Abbie responded to fans questioning why race had anything to do with the situation 

Regrets: Abbie admitted she'd failed to recognise how her actions would be perceived in the context of race, as Brooke was Australia's first Indigenous Bachelorette. Pictured: Abbie and her boyfriend Konrad Bien-Stephens

Regrets: Abbie admitted she’d failed to recognise how her actions would be perceived in the context of race, as Brooke was Australia’s first Indigenous Bachelorette. Pictured: Abbie and her boyfriend Konrad Bien-Stephens 

‘Following this, Brooke and I had a conversation in which I apologised and expressed regret multiple times for our public affection as this was prior to Konrad’s exit from the show. Konrad had a similar conversation with Brooke.

‘We met as a result of him coming along to a catch up with a mutual friend, the public setting was an accident. 

‘We absolutely should have waited to be in private as we are public figures and these are things we need to consider, but we didn’t. We also didn’t consider the possible ramifications of our actions. 

Mixed messages: It comes days after Abbie shared a lengthy post on Instagram explaining her decision to go public with Konrad, claiming she believed she had Brooke's blessing

Mixed messages: It comes days after Abbie shared a lengthy post on Instagram explaining her decision to go public with Konrad, claiming she believed she had Brooke’s blessing

'This is to address the post made by Brooke. A month ago, a video of Konrad and I kissing was secretly captured by a patron and made public,' Abbie began in a lengthy post

‘This is to address the post made by Brooke. A month ago, a video of Konrad and I kissing was secretly captured by a patron and made public,’ Abbie began in a lengthy post

‘Immediately following this, we intentionally kept things quiet, and did not leave the house together in an effort to not be photographed out of respect for the show and to minimise press surrounding the spoiler of Konrad’s exit.’

Abbie later shared a series of photos of herself and Konrad, 31, on Instagram the day before The Bachelorette finale, confirming their relationship.

But she insisted ‘it was not with malice’, and fan favourite Konrad had already been eliminated from the show when she made the announcement.

'The morning of, I mistook a message from Brooke expressing her happiness for and approval of our relationship as a green light to upload a post,' she explained

‘The morning of, I mistook a message from Brooke expressing her happiness for and approval of our relationship as a green light to upload a post,’ she explained

‘The morning of, I mistook a message from Brooke expressing her happiness for and approval of our relationship as a green light to upload a post. Following the post, Konrad received an equally supportive message,’ she continued.

‘I see with hindsight that this assumption was naïve. I now understand the timing of publicly sharing our relationship should have been more considered and that is my fault. I acknowledge that impact outweighs intent.’

Referencing Brooke’s comment about ‘another white woman displaying what white privilege looks like’, Abbie admitted she ‘didn’t take into account… the inherent privilege that I hold as a white woman’.

Short-lived love: Konrad formed a strong connection with Brooke - the franchise's first Indigenous and bisexual lead - on The Bachelorette but was eliminated after home visits

Short-lived love: Konrad formed a strong connection with Brooke – the franchise’s first Indigenous and bisexual lead – on The Bachelorette but was eliminated after home visits

‘My actions had the potential to undermine the importance that this pivotal season of The Bachelorette holds to the First Nations and LGBTQIA+ Communities,’ she added.

‘This is an extremely important conversation to be having. In future, this will be at the forefront of my mind and I will continue to listen to and amplify minority communities, and endeavour to learn.’

She concluded the post: ‘I’m sorry.’

Going public: Abbie shared a series of photos of herself and Konrad, 31, on Instagram the day before The Bachelorette finale, confirming their relationship

Going public: Abbie shared a series of photos of herself and Konrad, 31, on Instagram the day before The Bachelorette finale, confirming their relationship

Daily Mail Australia has contacted Brooke for further comment. 

In a post on Instagram Stories on Thursday, Brooke, 26, announced she was ‘going to go offline this week’.

‘I hate to bring it up, but personally and mentally I’ve been disrupted by all the crap that came with Finale Week,’ she continued.

Social media break: In a post on Instagram Stories on Thursday, Brooke, 26, announced she was 'going to go offline this week'. Pictured with winner Darvid Garayeli

Social media break: In a post on Instagram Stories on Thursday, Brooke, 26, announced she was ‘going to go offline this week’. Pictured with winner Darvid Garayeli

'I hate to bring it up, but personally and mentally I've been disrupted by all the crap that came with Finale Week,' Brooke wrote

‘I hate to bring it up, but personally and mentally I’ve been disrupted by all the crap that came with Finale Week,’ Brooke wrote

Without naming names, Brooke spoke about a ‘close friend’ who had pulled the focus from The Bachelorette finale with her actions. 

‘I’m not a hostile person and literally do not have any hate in my heart… I put my heart and soul into [the show] and it meant a lot for me to open myself up so vulnerably like that,’ she wrote. 

‘Not only that but for what it meant for the LGBTQIA+ and First Nations community to have that display of representation.

Speaking out: Without naming names, Brooke spoke about a 'close friend' who had pulled the focus from The Bachelorette finale with her actions

Speaking out: Without naming names, Brooke spoke about a ‘close friend’ who had pulled the focus from The Bachelorette finale with her actions

‘Which moves onto my new point. The hardest point. For that to be tainted once again by 1. what I thought was a close friend. 2. Another white woman displaying what white privilege looks like. 3. A very clear display of narcissism.’

Brooke said the person’s behaviour ‘hurts me’ and ‘literally pains me’.

‘I’ve reached out to this person to resolve this “conflict” which in fact, classic naïve me, adult me went to this person to communicate openly about the layers of complexity that this person’s actions show and take away from NOT only me but what it meant for a queer woman of colour,’ she added.

She finished: ‘You guys asked for my comment. There it is. Now go give them more airtime which is what this is exactly about.’ 

'I'm not a hostile person and literally do not have any hate in my heart... I put my heart and soul into [the show] and it meant a lot for me to open myself up so vulnerably like that,' she wrote

‘I’m not a hostile person and literally do not have any hate in my heart… I put my heart and soul into [the show] and it meant a lot for me to open myself up so vulnerably like that,’ she wrote

Big reveal: Abbie, who previously vowed to never speak publicly about her dating life, went Instagram official with Konrad on November 24 - the day before Brooke's finale

Big reveal: Abbie, who previously vowed to never speak publicly about her dating life, went Instagram official with Konrad on November 24 – the day before Brooke’s finale

Konrad formed a strong connection with Brooke – the franchise’s first Indigenous and bisexual lead – on The Bachelorette but was eliminated after home visits. 

Daily Mail Australia published a video of him and Abbie kissing at a bar in Byron Bay on November 5 – before Konrad’s exit from the show aired.

The footage not only outed them as a couple, but served as a major Bachelorette spoiler by confirming Konrad didn’t win Brooke’s heart.

Abbie, who previously vowed to never speak publicly about her dating life, went Instagram official with Konrad on November 24 – the day before Brooke’s finale.

To make things even more awkward, she appeared in the last episode of The Bachelorette – which was filmed months ago – as one of Brooke’s ‘best friends’. 

Caught out: Daily Mail Australia published a video of Konrad and Abbie kissing at a bar in Byron Bay on November 5 - before his exit from the show aired

Caught out: Daily Mail Australia published a video of Konrad and Abbie kissing at a bar in Byron Bay on November 5 – before his exit from the show aired

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